Wednesday, January 6, 2010

21 Fun Questions To Ask Any Guy

By David Web

Questions, questions and more questions! They are the most interesting thing that we can ask when we are on a first date with someone. You just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview! Questions are the best way to get to know someone and show them we are interested in them. On a first date you just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview!

Dale Carnegie in his timeless bestselling book, "How to win friends and influence people" writes about the benefit of asking good questions to show that we are interested in someone else.

Have you been to a party and been the one asking all the questions and doing all the listening? If you have, you will most likely attest that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting. You probably did less that 20% of the speaking but you got 100% of the credit!

If you are a guy and ask careful questions from a lady, you will often find yourself jumping to last-base, thus saving yourself a lot of legwork trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and listening is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do to anyone.

If you're a woman and want to pamper a guy's ego and make him feel super good and wanted, then just ask him lots of questions and then really listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a dangling string in seconds!

Despite the ego-stroking that can happen, if you are genuine, you will always win someone over quickly. They will feel your genuine interest and respond. Because the people who are genuinely interested in someone else and ask great questions are the people who are always popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.

Here are 21 questions to ask to get the conversation rolling. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions - which are always better.

Here's 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl to get you started

1. If you are working as a waiter and one of your customers was really rude, would you spit in their soup or even think to do this?

2. What is you all time favourite movie and why?

3. If you had the chance to choose 5 people to invite to dinner - real of fictional - who would you invite and why?

4. If in an instant you could become an invisible man, where would you go and what would you do?

5. If someone made a funny comedy movie about your life, which part of the story would be the funniest and why?

6. What was your most favourite television character when you were a child? What did you like about them and why?

7. If you had a chance to go back in time and do something that you feel you should have done what would that be?

8. What's the funniest experience in your whole entire life?

9. Have you ever had a date with a person that is much fatter or slimmer than you and when you saw them for the first time what did you think?

10. How old were you when you had your first proper date and did you kiss them?

11. What's the most horrible lie you have ever told someone in your life? Where you caught out and who was it that you told it to?

12. If you were suddenly turned into a woman for a day, how would you spend that day?

13. If you do not like someone what do you normally do, show it or hide it and why?

14. What's the highest priority for you when considering a partner - good looks, intelligence, sense of humor, or something else?

Time to get a little more personal! Maybe you should wait till you have had a few more drinks before asking some of these!

15. Have you ever had sex in a public place? If so were you seen?

16. What's the difference between having sex and making love for you and which do you prefer?

17. If you could suddenly change the age you lost your virginity, would you?

18. What's your biggest sexual 'turn-ons' and 'turn-offs'?

19. Have you ever been unfaithful to your partner and did they find out? If so, what happened?

20. Has anyone ever caught you touching yourself sexually? If they did what did you do and who was it?

21. Have you ever serial sex - with one person and then been with a different person somewhere else within the same day?

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Magic of Making Up

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Building New Intimacy In A Sound Relationship

Sometimes when you are with someone for several years, you may feel the two of you growing apart. You begin spending less time with each other, and the magic seems to falter. Your relationship starts to suffer a bit and you believe both of you are not on the same page any longer. You think the relationship is worthy of preserving, but you do not sure how to bridge the gap between you and your partner. To reconstruct the intimacy you both want and need.

If you feel the relationship is worth saving and worthy of the endeavor to get it to grow, there are a couple of things you can do in order to heal the wounds and move ahead together as a strong couple. Let us explore these steps together.

Discuss things with your partner. Make sure the other person knows what your feelings are, what you hope to achieve in life and the things you plan to accomplish. You must remember that your mate cannot read your mind and will need you to tell them what you need. If they do not know, how are they going to present you with what you require in a sound relationship ?

Be open and honest. Don't spent time playing mind games with your partner. You can't expect them to read between the lines and know that when you say, "I'm okay", it actually means you are fuming on the inside. The longer you take to get the truth to rise up, the longer it will be until you are in a sincerely joyful relationship.

Trust is what makes a relationship mature into a healthy thriving one and permits intimacy to come into play. Without trust, a relationship will only keep going on a negative course and prevent true intimacy from becoming a part of your life.

Spend some "us" time together as a couple without your family and friends trailing along with you. In order for a relationship to thrive, it needs you to spend a little time with each other, essentially getting to know each other, and what your likes and dislikes are.

Once you feel you know your mate well enough, closeness will follow a great deal easier when other people are not seeking to get in your way. And do not believe that just because you have known your mate for 15 years, that you still know what it is they like and do not like; people change over time and so do their preferences.

Take a romantic holiday together. Travel to a place that you will enjoy together while getting to know your partner again. A trip can help wipe out strain in a relationship and lets you be more yourself with your mate.

You can be more at ease with him or her, which collapses the walls and allows intimacy to break through. Likewise, lovers who took holidays reported a happier marriage overall than those who had not been on a trip together in the last 6 years.

Be flexible with each other. You will require a little give and take in your relationship. If you require your mate to go to a play with you for example, when they are not interested in the activity, then you should be willing to do something with them that you are not really interested in. Give and take is a wonderful way to build intimacy in your relationship.

Intimacy does not have to be difficult to have. As long as both partners are willing to work at it, they can build a sound relationship that will take a thriving level of intimacy. A relationship that the two of you have put effort and years into, is a sound relationship worth another try.

Friday, January 1, 2010

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