Friday, January 15, 2010

Know If Your Boyfriend Wants To Get Back With You

By Stewart L. Haney

Most of the time, girls who break up with their boyfriends realize later on that they made a mistake in breaking up with their ex boyfriends, and now wants to get back together with them but are not sure if their ex still wants to get back together with them after what happened. They end up just passing on the chance to rekindle their relationship with their ex simply because they are afraid of making a fool of themselves by getting back together with their ex, only to be rejected.

If you end up in this similar situation, then you're in luck, for there are ways you can really tell if your partner is still interested by getting back along with you. Here are two straightforward telltales that may help you identify if there's still an opportunity for you and your ex to start a new relationship.

Frequency Of Interaction

A boyfriend who still wants to get together again with his ex-girlfriend is most likely still in communication with her often, and will avoid to make any distance between him and his ex, just to be sure that he's still part of her life. This tactic is generally employed if a hubby doesn't need his ex to totally forget him, therefore the frequency of their interaction with each other. So that the more frequent that your ex stays in touch with you even if you're already split up, the bigger the probability that your ex is still interested by getting back along with you.

Ex Asks About your personal life

If your ex asks about your current dating status, chances are, he is still not over you and still wants to get back together with you. No man asks about a woman dating status if he wasn't interested in dating her. This is a clear sign of interest on the part of your ex in wanting to keep tabs on your social life, hence, the questions and updates on your current dating status.

Conversations About The Past

When your ex boyfriend talks about your past a lot, that is a clear indication that he is still clinging to your past memories and experiences together, which means that he may not be over you completely, and is contemplating on getting back together with you. Ex boyfriends usually use this type of technique in order to remind you of how much fun you guys had before, or remind you that you both were great together, anything to spark up your fire for him. Ex usually use these to also test if you are also feeling the same way, so they may ask you if you remember a certain moment in your past, and if you miss it. If this happens a lot, then you know already what your ex boyfriend is trying to do.

Conversations About Nothing

Ex boyfriends sometimes try to keep them connected to you in a number of ways, one of which is by trying to talk to you even if there is nothing to talk about. What this does is it simply keeps both of you in each other sights, making it difficult for you to forget him, which is basically the whole idea. You might notice that you have been conversing for hours about nothing, or about the same topic. If this happens, then your ex boyfriend might actually be trying to talk his way back into your heart.

There are a whole lot of other signs that you can try to check, but keep in mind that each person is different, so you should learn to feel them out since they all react and act differently than one another. Still, nothing beats asking your ex directly, but where is the fun in that, right?

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Thursday, January 14, 2010

Which Venues For Marriage Are Best Suited For Bridal Photography

By Joshua Stevens

The first thing that comes to mind while talking about a wedding is its venue. Be it an old fashioned or modern venue, it plays a very significant role in the complete experience of the marriage, which is reflected in photos for eternity.

Bridal photography is a critical part of the wedding and the photographer must be clearly informed about what the couple's expectations are. The wedding photographers must have the skill to capture the beauty of the venue, while ensuring that the real concentration is always on the bride. A right balance between the bridal photography and venue photography can only be struck by a seasoned photographer.

Different venues differ greatly in their characteristics and facilities and all of them are unique in their own way. Traditional church weddings are as much popular as weddings in modern venues. Houses of worship, with their splendid architecture, can form a very good thematic background for bridal photography.

However, it is difficult to use the interiors of most venues for bridal photography. A good idea would be to see whether there is some scenic outdoor space around the venue that can be made use of for the purpose. Experienced bridal and wedding photographers, by virtue of their vast experience can guide you well in your quest for the right venue.

Selecting the venue, even though most important, is just one of the numerous considerations you must keep in mind to get the ideal wedding and bridal photographs. A good wedding photographer must strive at not only capturing the natural beauty inherent to a venue, but also heightening it through his photography skills. Once that is accomplished, it is all down to the talent of the photographer in making sure that the photographs come out the way you want them to.

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Wednesday, January 13, 2010

How To Pick An Event Photographer

By Albert Frank

There are many business occasions, such as the visit of a major client, or a high profile conference, for which you need to capture the proceedings in form of photographs. This is where event photographers come into the picture.

Event photography is drastically different from casual photography or even pro photography in a studio setting, as the photographer does not have any say in the proceedings of the event. The task involved in shooting an event asks for know-how and a professional attitude on part of the photographer and very few people can do a good job at it. However, the greatest difficulty is that an event photographer does not get a second chance.

Quite obviously, you have to be aware of several aspects while picking an event photographer to cover a corporate event. Ability to manipulate the camera so that it functions properly indoors is necessary, because most company venues do not have any natural light. Even a great photographer would be of little use if the camera and lenses are not of good quality, so you must insist on top-end equipment.

You will save yourself a lot of hassle if you go to an established firm, which will offer you the services of an experienced photographer. You should have a look at the work samples of the photographer and his familiarity with covering similar occasions in the past. Getting feedback from the photographer's previous clients can also be of assistance.

Lastly, you should try to familiarize yourself with the chosen event photographer and let the photographer know your needs in detail. This step is the most critical, because without proper communication it would be impossible for the photographer to understand what your exact needs are, and for you to be convinced about his services. In addition, once you have talked about all aspects of the requirement, the event photographer would be much more comfortable and confident about the job.

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Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back

By George F. Merryweather

Relationships are like glass, very fragile if not taken care. Once broken can be mend, but a crack is always there. Thus after a breakup getting your ex girlfriend back is the only hope with which you survive and this hope is your ultimate destination. A relationship always has its good times and its bad times. But even after a horrible breakup, if there is this one particular girl which makes you feel attracted toward her, then getting your ex girlfriend back is the prime objective you carry in your life.

Getting your ex girlfriend back is not as easy as it may sound, for some it turns out to be lucky and they achieve their goal, but others still keep on trying. But trying getting your ex girlfriend back is a positive sign and one should make an attempt if he really needs the girl.

You will have to put a lot of work into the process of getting your ex girlfriend back. This will not just happen on it's own just because you want it to. The first thing that you need to do in getting your ex girlfriend back is to think about why are you two apart. What happened that has led to this split among the two of you? Did you say something that may have been taken out of context, possibly you were not acting like she would have liked for you to.

One thing that will cause a girl to leave quick is the fact that things have went stale in the relationship.

If this is the case then you will just need to go out of your way and make sure that you change this and make things a little more interesting for both you and your partner. Variety is the spice of life, and you will need to have as much as possible when you are getting your ex girlfriend back.

The first step in getting your ex girlfriend back is when you realize exactly it is that went wrong in the first place. Once you have determined what it is that went wrong then you will be able to work on it and correct it.

It is important that you make sure you never let your girlfriend sees that you are desperate to get her back. This will be a key in any relationship as many women do not want to see a man cry and beg to take them back.

The last thing that you need to do in getting your ex girlfriend back is to use her envy against her. Make it a point to date other women in front of her and get her to become envious of you are dating the other women. Women are naturally envious and this will just work to your advantage. If you have done your job correctly then your ex will be willing to take you back and work out any issues that you may have within the relationship. In a perfect world this will be all you need in getting your ex girlfriend back.

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Monday, January 11, 2010

Some Top Tips For Your Wedding Day Photography

By Joel Wong

Wedding photography includes pictures of the couple before the wedding, as well as coverage of the actual wedding event and reception. The two approaches in wedding photography are traditional and photojournalistic. Traditional wedding photography consists of classically posed images. In this approach, there is much interaction with the photographer on the day of the wedding. In the photojournalistic approach, the images recorded are much more subtle with less photographer interaction. These two approaches are the two extremes of photographic styles. Today most photographers will side with one of the two styles.

There are certain things to keep in mind while hiring a photographer to cover your wedding. Every photographer possesses an individual style. There is some research you should do before you decide who you want photographing your wedding. To find the perfect photographer you should start looking well ahead of time. If you are hiring a wedding photojournalist to cover your wedding, it is recommended that you focus more on the creative side than on the business process involved. One shouldn't be concerned about comparing various package details or the number of prints he is going to get. Take care of all the last minute details so your photographer isn't preoccupied with thoughts about payment on your wedding day.

Always remember NOT to give constant direction to the professional you have hired. The biggest pet peeve of wedding photographers is that they are given instructions by the brides, grooms, parents, relatives and everyone on the wedding party. No photographer likes to be directed as to what to shoot and how to do it. The more there's third party interaction, the less creativity in the photography. Sometimes the relatives and friends are so preoccupied in instructing the photographer that they almost miss the entire wedding.

Go for trust on your big day with your photographer is one of the best tips to give. Trust allows natural expression to flow from everyone. After all you want the day to flow with joy and fun so trust is a prerequisite for that to happen.

Most importantly, do not starve your photographer. Your photographer will need to eat, no matter how professional and hardworking they are. He would be the last person you want to starve. Do not give your photographer long lists of things to do. He might not get what you actually hired him to do.

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Sunday, January 10, 2010

Becoming Professional With Your Bridal

By Rubert Wong

You are creating something that people will keep for years to come. You are capturing a very special moment in people's lives. Guaranteeing quality and highly skilled photography is something every bride and groom wants. If you are a photographer you might want to consider photographing weddings because there is a lot of money to be made by doing them. With the money comes the risk which you must manage well.

If this is going to be your first wedding shoot you will want to make sure your contract is written up properly and a disclaimer included in it. A disclaimer is something that can prevent you from being sued later on. For example, you should include that you are not responsible for pictures that might get lost after you send the film away to get developed, or pictures that do not come out clear due to equipment failure. You do not want to be sued for breaching your contract.

Now with that said you should also include how many pictures are to be taken and how long you will be photographing for and what hourly rate will be. Something else you should include would be the fees for developing and the fee of the album. Your client's requirements are important so make sure you talk it over with them. There could be a particular family member that they want photographed separately, or a certain group of people they do not get to see very often.

Make a list of all the pictures that your client's requested. Here are a few common ones, pre-ceremony, wedding ceremony, post-ceremony and reception. Discuss with the clients about which shots they want and who's going to be in the pictures. Not every client will be the same so pay attention to what they are saying.

A deposit should be made after you book your clients in. Fifty percent is reasonable to ask for an up front booking fee. This will make sure you are covered in the event of a cancellation. So you don't end up bothering the bride and groom during the reception, arrangements should be made for when the remainder will be paid. They would think you were unprofessional and wish they had hired someone else.

If you are developing your client's pictures yourself, Photoshop is an excellent photo editing program. Flaw removal, montage, and changing the color are a few of the enhancements you can use with Photoshop.

Look for ways to add extra value that you have not told them about. This will always generate good feelings. A special surprise will keep everyone talking and generating more business for you in the future. Think different. Imagine for example if you uploaded all their pictures onto a password protected part of your website so that they and their friends can login and view.

In the end doing wedding photography can be lucrative and fun as long as you build on your people skills.

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Saturday, January 9, 2010

The Secret Of Happiness Is Bonding

By Masami Sato

Why are we living? What have we come here for? Every day we hear questions about the aim and purpose of our lives. And most of us continuously search for answers. How can we find happiness? That is one more question forcing us to search for its answer every day. What if the answer to those questions is straightforward? What if all those questions are just about ONE thing? Relationship. The secret of happiness is elucidated in the clear and inspiring voice of Masami Sato in the following excerpt of her book, ONE.

What are we trying to find out?

There are many things we do in our life.

Still, have we ever considered why we do what we are doing? What in fact are we searching for?

The world is a confluence of millions of people of all continents, races, religions, and ideologies, doing different things. They look different and also act in different ways. All of us have different interests and each have a different viewpoint. We converse differently using different languages. We have different emotions and desires.

Nevertheless, if there was ONE thing that ALL of us are searching for, what could that be?

While I journeyed all over the world, I asked people a seemingly straightforward question, "What would you like to achieve in your life? What do you really want?"

In the beginning it appeared that different people were looking for different things. People said different things like "A house of my own", "A good job", "A perfect partner", "A soul mate", "A little more money", "An affectionate family", "Freedom", "Peace of mind", "A purpose to life" etc. There were many answers of this type.

I actually noticed that some of these things are temporal desires and some are more permanent desires. Temporal desire means we want it because we do not have it yet or we don't think we have it yet. On the other hand, permanent desire is not about attaining things we do not have. It is about the 'feeling' we seek so this does not end no matter what we get or achieve at each moment of our life.

If we take off the temporal desires from the list and look only at the permanent desires, it is clear that all we want is to continue experiencing positive feelings like exhilaration, enjoyment, encouragement, motivation, kindness, love, happiness etc. - in another way, we want to remain happy.


Delightfulness is a state of emotion that every one us are longing to experience. Every one of us may define it in a different way. We may even evaluate it differently. We may sense it at varied levels of intensity. But without doubt, we have something in general when delightfulness comes to us. And when we understand this secret about delightfulness, we hold the knowledge to become more delighted, and to make others around us too feel the same sensations.

This life, that we live, is a mystery. All of us like it in our own different ways. We may also dislike it in different ways. We may wonder about it. We may cherish it. Or we may just accept it in an offhand manner. But what is the ultimate purpose of this life? What if the mystery of our existence is at hand? What if its revelation actually brings us happiness and fulfilment when we come face to face with it?

What if the essence of the aim of our lives, and its joys, is as simple as this:

It is all about bonding.

Connection is everything

Everything depends on bonding. All things are part of some other things. A look at our own lives would say it all. Then we will begin to see the real purpose of life.

Why do we do something, ANYTHING in life as human beings?

It is just because we want to connect to others. We make friends to build a relationship. We get married to establish a relationship in a deeper and more permanent manner. We create a family to further strengthen that relationship. We go out to meet more people to connect with them, not only to get benefits out of those relationships, but also to become more connected to the world.

We get ourselves good clothes or go to a beauty parlour to bond better with our physical appearance or aesthetical sense. We choose to try out different types of food to bond better with our sense of savour and aroma. We dine out to get on better with people we would be sharing the meal with. We buy mobiles and computers to bond better with the entire world and its people. We read books and newspapers to remain connected to what is happening around and what others are going through. We study things and learn things to bond better with knowledge that others value.

Every single thing we do is to satisfy the need for connection. If we're not connected to our own body, we don't even have to eat and sleep. Our connection to all our senses tells us to do something to satisfy the demand of the body. We feel pain and discomfort if we ignore the signals of our own body. And beyond our basic needs, we seek a greater sense of connection - connection to our existence - connection to our purpose. And without that connection, it's empty. Just like the emptiness many of us feel inside when we're not even connected to ourselves. That simply cannot be the natural way we're designed to live our lives.

Connection is powerful, and yet it's fragile and tender

When we can't feel the sense of connection in a relationship, we go for separation, divorce, arguments, judgment and resentment. It never feels good to feel disconnected. But we could even feel in love with someone one day and feel totally remote and resentful toward that same person the next day. The feeling can change just by a flick of a finger. And it could be your finger or theirs!

When the relationship is not there.

When the bonds are not there, we perceive problems all over. We start seeing disparities and obstacles. We begin passing judgement on others and reproaching them. We blow up, focus on and strengthen those things that we perceive as problems. When that happens, we might even turn all that negativity inwards and cause ourselves hurt and injury. We cannot feel completely happy when we have severed the bonds with even just one thing.

Connection: the Secret to Happiness

What if we choose to perceive the entire thing in reverse? When we do that we understand this simple truth: we cannot feel despondent when we are in a strong relationship. It is simply not possible!

Try to feel moody when we feel the security of our bonding to the people around us and laughing and enjoying with our whole heart. Even if we have our own fair share of difficulties in life, we would still be able to break into a laugh and enjoy and feel good when the bonds are strong. At the same time, we would be unable to enjoy things when those bonds are absent.

Bonding: Our Life

Connection is the core of everything. That's what life is. Connection.

Everything is a unified whole of smaller units. Everything combines together to form a bigger unit; the way our bodies are a fusion of smaller entities like atoms, molecules, cells and organs.

Our actions and choices also express the need for connection. We are designed to constantly seek ways to connect to each other and to a greater purpose.

Connection and Religion

Some of us choose to be part of different religions to feel more connected. The connection they seek could be to God. It could be to the people with the same belief. When we share the same belief, it creates a stronger sense of bonding within that group of people. More giving happens naturally among people who are feeling connected to each other.

Bonding and Business

Many people begin an enterprise to feel better bonded to themselves by being in control of their fate. But often in the entrepreneurial world, we end up being more and more segregated especially when we start viewing other ventures as contenders, staff as instruments and customers as a money flow. But the basic point of why we got into the venture was to feel the power of that bonding. So, why do we need to fashion that disconnection at all? May be in the perfect world, all business ventures worked differently, but hand in hand.

Relationship and Wars

Some of us even raise arguments or wars to feel some sense of 'triumph' or what is a heightened sense of safety and importance. But strangely, this ricochets. The minute we 'win' the fight, we are in fact weakening the relationship. We now require more sureness to defend ourselves from being assaulted by others. We thus end up being more unsure and frightened. We cannot take it lightly as it really happens to almost all of us in one form or another.

It may be the arguments we have with people around us. It may be the negative judgement we make when we feel something or someone is wrong. When we try to be the only one to win, we can never win in the real way-we feel disconnected. We can only truly celebrate the victory with others when we win together. Then we feel connected.

Despite the myriad ways in which we communicate our wants, everything we do is to fulfil the longing we have to feel and have strong bonds.

The complete experience of relationship is only felt through our heart. We can build a relationship with anybody when we truly care for them, and feeling that association with them. If we know this, forming that needed state is not difficult, but just simple and amusing. Then we would really feel more pleasure and contentment.

Life is like a play. We act things and feel things in a play but actually, the aim of the play is to derive pleasure out of it. It is not about acting out things, doing things. When the curtain falls finally, the winners are the ones who have experienced joy by acting. Not the ones who received more applause in the end. The effects and upshots of a play in which we acted do not affect our real life. But if we lost all our life to act in a play just because we wanted to be the best actor there, would it make us the best actor of the play?

It is easy to comprehend this when compared to acting in a play, but we often fail to understand it while enacting the play of life. We do not remember that life is also a play.

We have no idea when the play started and when it would come to an end, we know that it began some day in the past and it will be finished some day. When the curtain falls on the stage of the play, we can just say, "Wow, it was really good. Let's act in it once again!"

In this play called life, the aim of the play is to 'bond.' We can keep bonding until we all merge to become one. It is the one way to perpetually feel bonded to our rationale - the feeling of joy and pleasure. We cannot afford to have the bonds to anything weakened or reject and decide even one thing if we are to reach the state of complete bonding.

Life is as uncomplicated as that. There is just ONE secret.

And the secret is to connect.

To grow into ONE

To find pleasure.

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Friday, January 8, 2010

Tips For Your Wedding Event

By Jude Matthews Wong

When you are planning your wedding you are going to want to find an event photographer. You will want them to posses a few qualities such as style, motivation, experience and good communication. An excellent event photographer will only posses these qualities through experience, so make sure that they are well trained and can focus on what you want is important.

Every event photographer will have their own style. Your ideas about your wedding should coincide with the photographers style. Otherwise a horrible experience might be the end result. Every event photographer will have a different style. Some photographers like to be traditional and others like to be wild. Traditional pictures will consist of those of the bride herself, the groom himself, the bride and groom together, the wedding party, and everyone all together. Making funny faces and having completely serious faces might be considered a wild style.

An event photographer should be highly motivated, try to find one who is. You do not want to have someone who is inactive and sitting around missing all the good pictures they could be capturing. Motivation is not just about wanting to do the job, but finding a way to enjoy it and bring trust as well as good verbal communication to everyone as well.

Experience can only come to an event photographer over time. In some cases you should ask questions such as where they were previously employed and for how long. This should help you when making a clear decision on an event photographer. Ask their previous employer what kind of work they produced if they are now in business for themselves. It may be a devious way of getting information but it is better to find out then to have horrible pictures produced.

It is a good idea to choose an event photographer who you comfortable around. And they should try to make you feel comfortable and relaxed when around them. This will help them in capturing the precious photos later on at your wedding. You will see the emotion in the wedding pictures if you are nervous around your event photographer.

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Thursday, January 7, 2010

Does An Unhealthy Mind And Body Mean You Have A Bad Relationship?

Having an unhealthy body due to lack of exercise and poor eating habits can affect your life in many ways. It can also affect your love life!

When you begin a relationship with somebody, you desire it to endure as long as possible. A healthy relationship can help you achieve that. In order to have a strong and happy relationship with somebody, you want to possess a healthy body and mind.

How do you make a relationship healthy and happy? A healthy mind is when you have a secure self-esteem and confidence about who you are and what you want out of life. A healthy mind gives you independence so that you trust in yourself to get things done and do not become co-dependent on your mate.

An unhealthy mind is when you have little or no self-esteem and no self-confidence. The lines of communication get blurred because you are drawn into your own world and just look to your mate for direction in your life, which puts a burden on your significant other.

A healthy body, simply put, is when you take care of yourself. You make an effort to sustain a healthy weight and you care about your appearance and how you feel on a day-to-day basis. You do not smoke or drink or do anything that would induce damage to your body over time.

You exercise on a regular basis to keep your heart in tip-top condition and eat a sensible diet, splurging now and then as a reinforcement. Your attitude is positive which makes your mate want to spend time with you.

An unhealthy body is when you do not care enough about yourself to take care of your body. You smoke and drink more than you should and let yourself go. You eat junk food frequently and your waist is inflating.

Since you do not care about yourself, you do not try to work out or do things that would keep your heart strong. Your mental attitude is bad, making your relationship collapse because your mate no longer wishes to spend any time with you. You can not fault him or her because if you can not even love yourself, why should your partner?

Once your mind and body are in sync with each other, you can acquire a positive attitude, which keeps the line of communication going with your mate. It will allow you to listen to them and assists you in supporting them if they need it. You are more likely to do whatever it takes to keep your relationship in first-rate shape so that it continues to grow and mature.

Avoid the pitfalls of an unhealthy mind and stop the pitfalls of poor physical health. Setbacks are a given, but do not let them lead to an unhealthy mind or impact your health for the long-term. Keep your body, mind and relationship strong.

Human Pheromone

By Jack Woodbinal

Pheromone- fact or myth ? For over 5 decades, scientists, researchers and doctors have been trying to determine if pheromones trigger mammalian behaviors and endocrine responses. Secretions that act as chemical signals are pheromones, like hormones. Odors that carry stimulation and change the behavior of other creatures from the same species and pick up the scent are pheromones.

When humans sweat they release into the area around them the pheomone that is in their chemical makeup.
this chemical can not be detected by our normal ofafactory nerves but rather is detected by a receptor in our nose called the vomeronasal organ or (VNO).

So, how does it work? When someone gives off a pheromone scent that agrees with us, we are attracted to that person. People have discovered that if you apply these male pheromones to your skin then you can speed up the natural process of attraction and flirtation which could eventually lead to more dates. If you want to increase your chances of attracting the opposite sex, then you can apply male pheromones to your skin which will then give you a higher rate of success when interacting with women.

The drive to make effective contact with the opposite sex is inherent in all humans, and pheromones accentuate this natural tendency. Pheromones will add pizzazz to one's social life. But the best pheromones don't change anything they merely enhance what's already there. Socializing becomes easier. If there is attraction, they can build on it. But people expect so much more than is possible with pheromones. And those high expectations sometimes cause people to give up on pheromones, because they miss the point on what they can really do.

Human Pheromones, like the pheromones of other animals influence the way that humans bond, mate,
raise their children and a number of other things. they can affect how often we will engage in sexual
behavior and with whom. These chemical signals are without smell and yet they affect almost every aspect of our behavior. Research has shown that there may be a correlation between being attractive and body odor.

Ascent Research Group LLC has created a cologne that does include the proper human pheromones. The main difference is the inclusion of oxytocin. Oxytocin is the hormone that a woman secretes during heightened sexual arousal and orgasm. By including oxytocin in the formula Icebreaker Pheromone Cologne is able to increase the effects of the other pheromones, giving women a fleeing of confidence, letting her let go and be more flirty, and actually putting her in the mood for sex. Find out more about this product by going to and see just how more receptive women are to you!

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Wednesday, January 6, 2010

Relationship Recovery Is A Long Process

When we enter a relationship, everything seems so perfect and magical, and we expect it to last forever. However, most relationships experience some difficult times at some point. Sometimes the troubled times collapse into infidelity involving one of the people in the relationship. Infidelity can be a tough thing for a relationship to rebound from.

There are ways to avoid a total close down of your relationship. The number one thing is to make certain that you want to work on a relationship recovery . In order to rebound back from an infidelity issue, you have to be willing to resolve the issue.

If one partner Is unprepared, or holds on to a grudge, then there will be no way of mending it, regardless however hard each individual tries. Take some time away from one another before you begin to mend anything.

Both partner's in a relationship need to spend time by themselves and think the matter through. You will need a unclouded mind when you begin the recuperation process. You will want to plan to take a while for this to materialize.

Recuperating from something like this does not take place in a few days. If you go into it thinking that it will, you are only kidding yourself and setting your relationship recovery up for failure.

When your minds have had time to process the situation and are moderately clear, sit down and talk it out. Talk about why the unfaithfulness happened in the first place. Find out what induced it and see if matters can change to prevent it from occurring over again.

Deal solely with your mate. Do not make the mistake of attempting to go after the person who they were cheating with or bring outsiders into the mix to take sides. It may take two to tango, but there is no reason to dredge the other person into it. The trouble lies with your mate - and you need to discover what lead them to do it.

Discuss your feelings since this has occurred. It was not easy on you to discover the infidelity your mate was caught up in. He or she will need to recognize precisely what you went through when you found out.

If you feel the relationship is deserving, do not be apprehensive to get some professional guidance. A counselor may be able to assist both of you in working out your feelings and concerns and help you come up with a program of action on how you will be able to recover. Each situation is different and a professional person can identify what may work for both of you.

The relationship. recovery will happen a lot faster for both involved if they are willing to talk out their feelings and thoughts and work them through together. If you want the relationship recovery process to work, it will take time.

21 Fun Questions To Ask Any Guy

By David Web

Questions, questions and more questions! They are the most interesting thing that we can ask when we are on a first date with someone. You just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview! Questions are the best way to get to know someone and show them we are interested in them. On a first date you just have to be careful not to overdo it and turn it into an interview!

Dale Carnegie in his timeless bestselling book, "How to win friends and influence people" writes about the benefit of asking good questions to show that we are interested in someone else.

Have you been to a party and been the one asking all the questions and doing all the listening? If you have, you will most likely attest that the other person thought that the conversation was quite interesting. You probably did less that 20% of the speaking but you got 100% of the credit!

If you are a guy and ask careful questions from a lady, you will often find yourself jumping to last-base, thus saving yourself a lot of legwork trying to build rapport with her. Asking questions and listening is one of the most naturally flattering things you can do to anyone.

If you're a woman and want to pamper a guy's ego and make him feel super good and wanted, then just ask him lots of questions and then really listen to the answers. You will have the guy on a dangling string in seconds!

Despite the ego-stroking that can happen, if you are genuine, you will always win someone over quickly. They will feel your genuine interest and respond. Because the people who are genuinely interested in someone else and ask great questions are the people who are always popular and well liked. Faking interest is the worst thing you can do. And at the end of the day, if you are not a natural listener then put yourself to the test and practice. You will start to learn SO much about so many things and you will discover parts of people that are just SO interesting to learn about.

Here are 21 questions to ask to get the conversation rolling. They have been written from a female perspective, just switch them around if you are a guy and want to use them. If nothing else it will get you thinking about your own questions - which are always better.

Here's 21 questions to ask a guy or a girl to get you started

1. If you are working as a waiter and one of your customers was really rude, would you spit in their soup or even think to do this?

2. What is you all time favourite movie and why?

3. If you had the chance to choose 5 people to invite to dinner - real of fictional - who would you invite and why?

4. If in an instant you could become an invisible man, where would you go and what would you do?

5. If someone made a funny comedy movie about your life, which part of the story would be the funniest and why?

6. What was your most favourite television character when you were a child? What did you like about them and why?

7. If you had a chance to go back in time and do something that you feel you should have done what would that be?

8. What's the funniest experience in your whole entire life?

9. Have you ever had a date with a person that is much fatter or slimmer than you and when you saw them for the first time what did you think?

10. How old were you when you had your first proper date and did you kiss them?

11. What's the most horrible lie you have ever told someone in your life? Where you caught out and who was it that you told it to?

12. If you were suddenly turned into a woman for a day, how would you spend that day?

13. If you do not like someone what do you normally do, show it or hide it and why?

14. What's the highest priority for you when considering a partner - good looks, intelligence, sense of humor, or something else?

Time to get a little more personal! Maybe you should wait till you have had a few more drinks before asking some of these!

15. Have you ever had sex in a public place? If so were you seen?

16. What's the difference between having sex and making love for you and which do you prefer?

17. If you could suddenly change the age you lost your virginity, would you?

18. What's your biggest sexual 'turn-ons' and 'turn-offs'?

19. Have you ever been unfaithful to your partner and did they find out? If so, what happened?

20. Has anyone ever caught you touching yourself sexually? If they did what did you do and who was it?

21. Have you ever serial sex - with one person and then been with a different person somewhere else within the same day?

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Magic of Making Up

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Building New Intimacy In A Sound Relationship

Sometimes when you are with someone for several years, you may feel the two of you growing apart. You begin spending less time with each other, and the magic seems to falter. Your relationship starts to suffer a bit and you believe both of you are not on the same page any longer. You think the relationship is worthy of preserving, but you do not sure how to bridge the gap between you and your partner. To reconstruct the intimacy you both want and need.

If you feel the relationship is worth saving and worthy of the endeavor to get it to grow, there are a couple of things you can do in order to heal the wounds and move ahead together as a strong couple. Let us explore these steps together.

Discuss things with your partner. Make sure the other person knows what your feelings are, what you hope to achieve in life and the things you plan to accomplish. You must remember that your mate cannot read your mind and will need you to tell them what you need. If they do not know, how are they going to present you with what you require in a sound relationship ?

Be open and honest. Don't spent time playing mind games with your partner. You can't expect them to read between the lines and know that when you say, "I'm okay", it actually means you are fuming on the inside. The longer you take to get the truth to rise up, the longer it will be until you are in a sincerely joyful relationship.

Trust is what makes a relationship mature into a healthy thriving one and permits intimacy to come into play. Without trust, a relationship will only keep going on a negative course and prevent true intimacy from becoming a part of your life.

Spend some "us" time together as a couple without your family and friends trailing along with you. In order for a relationship to thrive, it needs you to spend a little time with each other, essentially getting to know each other, and what your likes and dislikes are.

Once you feel you know your mate well enough, closeness will follow a great deal easier when other people are not seeking to get in your way. And do not believe that just because you have known your mate for 15 years, that you still know what it is they like and do not like; people change over time and so do their preferences.

Take a romantic holiday together. Travel to a place that you will enjoy together while getting to know your partner again. A trip can help wipe out strain in a relationship and lets you be more yourself with your mate.

You can be more at ease with him or her, which collapses the walls and allows intimacy to break through. Likewise, lovers who took holidays reported a happier marriage overall than those who had not been on a trip together in the last 6 years.

Be flexible with each other. You will require a little give and take in your relationship. If you require your mate to go to a play with you for example, when they are not interested in the activity, then you should be willing to do something with them that you are not really interested in. Give and take is a wonderful way to build intimacy in your relationship.

Intimacy does not have to be difficult to have. As long as both partners are willing to work at it, they can build a sound relationship that will take a thriving level of intimacy. A relationship that the two of you have put effort and years into, is a sound relationship worth another try.

Friday, January 1, 2010

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