Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Building New Intimacy In A Sound Relationship

Sometimes when you are with someone for several years, you may feel the two of you growing apart. You begin spending less time with each other, and the magic seems to falter. Your relationship starts to suffer a bit and you believe both of you are not on the same page any longer. You think the relationship is worthy of preserving, but you do not sure how to bridge the gap between you and your partner. To reconstruct the intimacy you both want and need.

If you feel the relationship is worth saving and worthy of the endeavor to get it to grow, there are a couple of things you can do in order to heal the wounds and move ahead together as a strong couple. Let us explore these steps together.

Discuss things with your partner. Make sure the other person knows what your feelings are, what you hope to achieve in life and the things you plan to accomplish. You must remember that your mate cannot read your mind and will need you to tell them what you need. If they do not know, how are they going to present you with what you require in a sound relationship ?

Be open and honest. Don't spent time playing mind games with your partner. You can't expect them to read between the lines and know that when you say, "I'm okay", it actually means you are fuming on the inside. The longer you take to get the truth to rise up, the longer it will be until you are in a sincerely joyful relationship.

Trust is what makes a relationship mature into a healthy thriving one and permits intimacy to come into play. Without trust, a relationship will only keep going on a negative course and prevent true intimacy from becoming a part of your life.

Spend some "us" time together as a couple without your family and friends trailing along with you. In order for a relationship to thrive, it needs you to spend a little time with each other, essentially getting to know each other, and what your likes and dislikes are.

Once you feel you know your mate well enough, closeness will follow a great deal easier when other people are not seeking to get in your way. And do not believe that just because you have known your mate for 15 years, that you still know what it is they like and do not like; people change over time and so do their preferences.

Take a romantic holiday together. Travel to a place that you will enjoy together while getting to know your partner again. A trip can help wipe out strain in a relationship and lets you be more yourself with your mate.

You can be more at ease with him or her, which collapses the walls and allows intimacy to break through. Likewise, lovers who took holidays reported a happier marriage overall than those who had not been on a trip together in the last 6 years.

Be flexible with each other. You will require a little give and take in your relationship. If you require your mate to go to a play with you for example, when they are not interested in the activity, then you should be willing to do something with them that you are not really interested in. Give and take is a wonderful way to build intimacy in your relationship.

Intimacy does not have to be difficult to have. As long as both partners are willing to work at it, they can build a sound relationship that will take a thriving level of intimacy. A relationship that the two of you have put effort and years into, is a sound relationship worth another try.

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